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Oct 22Liked by Roman Newell

So much heartbreak. I’m sorry you had so much loss, grief, shame, and self hatred. Please be careful with a barrel, bc us readers need writers like you who speak from the heart and peer into the infinite abyss of the human soul. Agree that creating and sharing writing/art is an act of love; all creative endeavors are a testament to what humans tend to seek when they look for a meaning amid chaos of living life: what is beautiful, true, and good? Truth may be subjective or illusive at times, but the act of searching for truth and creating art amid our search has inherent value in itself. Creating is an affirmation that our unanswered questions are worth asking, even if we can’t find a definitive answer (and wouldn’t it be kind of boring if people knew all of the answers?) By sharing your stories to us readers, please know you are loved as a fellow person who makes beautiful stories. In spite of everything you’ve suffered through, your writing speaks of the universal love makes life worth the pain and the struggle. Stay the course, good writer friend.

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Jessica, thank you for this really thoughtful and caring and response. You have a big big heart.

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Relationships can be so challenging and the really bad ones have a remarkable way of making our hearts recede much like the walls of those rooms. It feels less risky to protect ourselves then to ever love and break in that way again.

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Had my wife read this. Very relatable to us. Certainly to me. Good job. You're not alone. We're all, after all, human.

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I really appreciate those words of encouragement. Take care!

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Oct 23Liked by Roman Newell

I enjoyed this very much.

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Thank you.

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As one who is almost done reading Unapologetically Human, I am grateful that you let that pain come, that you allowed yourself to see yourself, that you found your words again.

Not only did you open the door for some relief from your past and what you originally deemed as a failed self, but you’ve brought such an incredible gift to the world.

I cannot rave enough about the rawness and the magic in the words you’ve assembled therein. It’s remarkable.

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Thank you, Qu.

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This really screwed me up for the day in the best way. I don’t even know what to say except you always have something to say that transmutes some little broken piece of me into a story. Your work has become essential in my life, and I am grateful for you, Roman.

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The words, I think, any writer would be honored to hear. I know I am. Honored.

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Like magic? Yep, I wish for that. It is all anyone could ever want.

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Oct 22Liked by Roman Newell

The way you have written about these feelings and experiences will be a benchmark in the lives of many readers, in the way they can relate to their own existences...

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I hope so Giles. Thank you for reading.

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Beautiful writing, Roman.

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Thanks

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Oct 21Liked by Roman Newell

This was really awesome. It’s fascinating how we make choices in life only to look back after years have gone by and realise we did what we did for completely different reasons unbeknownst to us at the time. Very relatable. Such honest writing, thank you.

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Thanks for reading, Ilan.

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I wonder if this is why my dad married and divorced an older woman. It’d make a lot of sense considering how estranged he was from her.

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It's interesting how life comes into focus the more we live, age, and grow. A kind of puzzle we slowly piece together.

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Ever wonder how much of ourselves are in others just unspoken?

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A lot, I think.

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Oct 21Liked by Roman Newell

i think many writers resonate very well with what you describe writing did for you emotionally

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I think sometimes we need to know we have permission to embrace our whole selves, whole histories, whole creativity.

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Straightforward, strong and unvarnished. This right here is 'the skinny' as the old saying goes. Terrific writing Roman. - Jim

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Thank you, Jim.

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I never grew up with relationship examples I wanted to emulate. I just observed a long list of things I didn’t want to become. But fear of becoming anything can still hold you back from the important journey of becoming. Thank you for your bravery and honesty, Roman!

-Ceylan

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I hear you’re on your own wonderful journey with a beautiful family.

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Every journey is beautiful, even if it’s ugly at times. We’re doing our best and growing together, and I’m so grateful! I hope your journey has brought you to a wonderful found family to build with, too.

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The reward for vulnerability is priceless. Thanks for sharing ,Roman.

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Thanks for reading, Kiana.

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Powerful and so honest. 😊

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Freedom in honesty. I think most of us know that but it’s hard in application.

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